All of my stories are true; my life, experiences, and what I’ve learnt. I’m a work-in-progress, I’m not perfect but I’m listening and learning along the way.
Who’s a twin? I am what is termed a womb twin survivor.
I had an identical twin sister. She died before birth. She would have been called either Alison or Elizabeth. I now have both of those names.
It was never something I talked about, although it has affected me. It felt quite self indulgent to grieve for someone who never was. Nonetheless, I’ve felt a deep sense of loss for my sister all of my life. In the silence, there’s a deeper silence that I can’t explain, it’s almost as though I’m straining to hear what I would have heard in the womb, but it’s not there. Sometimes I’m soul searching for something but I’m not quite sure where to look, and I get lost all over again. I don’t form attachments easily with people, I am happy for people to come into and go from my life. At school I never fit into a group, this is probably true of work groups too, where I know I’m often perceived as ‘aloof’. All of these are apparently factors of the “syndrome”. This is something I’ve only just found out is a thing, 47 years after losing my twin.
So if you’re a womb twin survivor or know someone who is you may want to explore what’s being said, what the research is turning up, or even connect to a wider community if that’s your thing.
This is where I found my information: http://www.wombtwin.com/